In our previous article on How to Take Advantage of Your Fear of Failure, you could understand that everyone feels the fear of failure but the secret relies oh how each and every individual reacts to it.
If you did not read that article yet, I recommend you do. If you read it already, let us go to what really matters!
Now that you can understand what fear is all about, I felt the necessity of giving you practical steps as well. As one of my quotes state ”Knowledge is power, but if you do not take action, you will never give it the opportunity to be manifested.” So, it is of no use to know a lot about fear and still being controlled by it.
Below I have a selection of 10 practical steps that you can start using from now and change the way you face challenges:
1. Identify The Cause
You can not fix what you can not see. So, the first thing to execute before you overcome the fear of failing at whatever you would like to do is to analyse and write down when was this fear formed and what may be the causes.
Often, this fear may be trying to give us a message. Perhaps getting into this course will not be good for, or you are not yet psychologically ready to change your job, or the company you would like to be is in a sector that you lack knowledge. and so on.
When you see what caused your fear of failure and you are sure that it is not accurate – I mean for example; you have an idea of a huge company in an area that you have been researching or working for a sufficient time and you are still afraid of not understanding how this business works. That is an inaccurate fear, because you know you understand the basics and most of the things you learn along the way.
2. Embrace Fear
I hope you wrote down the cause of your fear as prescribed in the previous point, the next step is to accept that you are simply afraid.
The moment you accept that you are really afraid of failing, you have to put in mind that it should not stop you, but instead be the fuel you needed to get started.
At this point as well, you have to see that failure is simply a stepping stone, not a permanent event. Even tough it may feel permanent, it is not. It is like a mental movie, you imagine yourself failing and when you let fear stop you, it i like the movie in your head stops there. Not knowing that perhaps If you let the movie play, you will realize that that failure may be exactly what you needed.
Everyone is afraid to one degree or another. No one is different. It’s ingrown into our biological mechanism. The sooner you befriend your fear, the faster you can keep moving forward. It is not fear that stops you from going after your dreams, but what you decide to do because of those fears.
If you are really determined to go after your passion, your fears will become insignificant in comparison. So in this step, I want you to write down your goal and what motivates you to get through whatever you will have to get, in order to achieve it.
3. Develop a Growth Mindset.
“Supposing you have tried and failed again and again. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down.” — Mary Pickford
We all have fears. Our fear is because we are trying something different, we are travelling in a different road and we do not know what to find along the way. You do not fear certain things like driving for example, because you have mastered it. It is the same when you try to get into something new. Our brains avoid some challenges as a strategy to store energy, because learning new things is hard and it requires effort, but use your fears as signposts that tell you where you have room to grow.
Now, I want you to write down the areas where you think your fears are telling you that growth is required and once again check if they are accurate. If they are not, move on. If they are, go and improve in this areas, because you MUST be 100% confident in order to overcome the fear of failure.
4. Be Optimistic
In life everything is about balance. You can not be overoptimistic or too pessimist. I want you to be optimistic but find the balance. Your internal dialog has a significant influence on how you feel. When you’re consumed with negative thoughts about your performance, your positive attitude will diminish and be replaced by self-doubt.
Take a different approach next time the thoughts of not being prepared enough or good enough for something come into your mind. Let me say the thought of ”It is too big for you, you cannot accomplish that!” and want you to replace it with words like ”I only need the foundation and the most important principles, the rest I will learn along the way.”
Practice this every-time. Replace negative thoughts with positive statements, do not allow them to sink into your soul. Now, you can go to the next step!
5. Think About What Can Go Wrong.
The fear of failure is perhaps one of the strong forces holding people behind. In the extremely dynamic world we live now, everything can happen at at time, that is why we often tend to ”play it safe.”
I consider what we often call ”playing it safe” as a risk too. You will never have the opportunity to reach and extend your limits, you will never be able to uncover the amazing abilities within you.
This step will help you to destroy worries. Think deeply and remove the emotion from your decision-making process and be as realistic as possible while answering this questions;
1. If you do whatever you are afraid of doing now, how long will it take you to recover? 2. How hard would it really be to finally get back on track?
3. What is the worst thing that can happen to you? Would you die?
6. Research The Alternatives
I believe that by now you have accepted that you are afraid, you embraced this fact, you found the cause of your fear, you wrote down your goals and your motives to pursue them and you have seen the other side of the coin, to see what is the worst thing that can happen if you do not succeed. Now let’s analyse the 6th Step;
According to your answers in step 5, plan on ways to recover from them. Hedge your risk by creating a contingency plan. Even if your first option fails, you can get back on track with a solid backup plan. Daring to fail doesn’t mean you have to risk losing it all. If you manage risk intelligently, you can still take advantage of the benefits of high risk opportunities.
7. Burn The Boats
When ancient Greek armies traveled across the sea to do battle, the first thing they would do after landing was to burn the boats, leaving them stranded. With no way to make it home besides victory, the resolve of the soldiers was strengthened. When success and failure are the only options, you have no choice but to follow through.
If you have reached this point, I believe your goal is worthy. Do not be afraid of not achieving it. I want you to be committed and force yourself into action by burning the boats. Get into this course that you, make a proposal to work for another company, apply for another school, create a business plan for your idea and start your company, do all you have to do in order to get started and then, burn all the boats.
8. Simplify Your Plan
When you do not have a proper plan, you will not be confident. You will not know where exactly to start. My advice is – start small, dream BIG. Break your plans down, complexity is hard to visualize.
Write down into around 10 steps what you should do, and commit yourself to it. If you are not committed, It will be hard to continue determined to make it work. If you don’t have that fire burning inside of you, you should think twice about moving forward with the next step.
9. Take Action
You know already what to do and if you reached this step, you are probably sure of what it takes to achieve what you want, but stop wondering too much, the best way to reduce fear and build confidence is taking action. As soon as you do, you’ll begin accumulating experience and knowledge, thus increasing your self confidence!
‘It always seems impossible until it’s done.’ – Nelson Mandela
First get the knowledge necessary to be successful in whatever you wish to do. Then build a strategy, with detailed and simplified steps on how you are going to do it. ( I advise you to find a mentor or a more experienced partner on this, so that your confidence can overlap your fear). The last move is to execute.
The good news is that we live in the information era, no matter what you want to do, you can learn. It is even more amazing that you can start learning now, simply by searching about the topic on any search engine, so I want you to go now. Click on the link and a new tab will open redirecting you to the Google’s main page. I want you to start your detailed research now! Click here ( Google )
10. Have The End Goal In Mind
You will need a lot of motivation to continue going. Your main source of motivation should come from within. The vision that you have about your goal should be always in your mind. It will help you to understand that the hard-times are there for a purpose and that very soon they will be gone.
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