Self-confidence is the feeling and belief that you can rely on yourself. I personally classify confidence as one of the most important bricks for the foundation of a successful life. It helps you to keep going, even when the whole world appears to be against you. It helps you against peer-pressure. It helps you to become more productive, and most importantly – knowing that you are capable of performing a task on your own boosts you self-esteem. On the other hand, confidence is not a static measure, our confidence to accomplish tasks can increase and decrease; some days we may feel more confident than others.
Performing a role or completing a task confidently is not about not making mistakes. Mistakes are inevitable, especially when doing something new. Confidence includes knowing what to do when mistakes come to light and therefore is also about problem solving and decision making.
Even though confidence and self-esteem are often linked, they are not the same thing. Confidence is related to how we feel about our ability to perform roles, functions and tasks. Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves, the way we look, the way we think – whether or not we feel worthy or valued. People with low self-esteem often also suffer from generally low confidence, but people with good self-esteem can also have low confidence. It is also perfectly possible for people with low self-esteem to be very confident in some areas, so below I selected 10 simple steps that will help you to become more confident individual:
1. Learn to say no
You have to learn to say no, without explaining yourself. So, why is it important and why it is here as the first ingredient? As humans we frequently have the tendency to take advantage when something is to favorable for us, and in this case, if you are always agreeing and accepting what everyone expects from you, you will not feel well.
On one hand you will feel tired and with a very low confidence to take decisions and on the other hand you will feel guilty for not accepting what is asked from you. What you need to understand is that, being a confident person also means that you should set parameters and limits. People will not only respect you more, but in the long run you will feel happier and more confident because it will give you the sense of being capable of managing yourself and the environment you are in efficiently.
2. Value your qualities
I have my flaws, you have your flaws, everyone has. But do you know what is more beautiful than that? We all have and can still develop amazing qualities that will help us to improve not only our lives but the lives of people around us.
Knowing that you are amazing will boost your self-worth and self-esteem, helping you to keep improving into becoming a better person.
The problem is that often, because of our past experiences in interactions with people we became more heartless and we tend to hide some of our most beautiful traits to avoid being hurt of being taken advantage of.
I know it is really hard, but don’t let those negative experiences change the wonderful people you are. Instead, change your environment and the people you socialize with.
3. Avoid destructive relationships
As the old saying goes ” Bad relationships have destroyed a lot of good people,” and it is really a fact. As I made reference earlier, as a result of past events we tend to become more heartless and the problem is that the ones that do not deserve and do not have anything to do with our heartache will be the ones paying.
I don’t mean only romantic relationships. It reflects to all kinds of relationships that we have, even with our family members. Avoid negative people, avoid people that cannot see your worth, avoid people that don’t help you grow, in other words, stop trying to fit in, when you were made to stand out.
If you don’t feel comfortable around a certain group of people, perhaps you were not made to be there. Go out, find new people and be happy, because if you continue in this atmosphere you will develop the feeling of not being good enough and overtime, you will develop a low self-esteem and you will lack confidence.
4. Think Positively
Our thoughts have a tremendous power. In my number one favorite book ever ( Think & Grow Rich ), as the title says ”Think”, it all starts as a thought, it all starts as a desire. In case of developing your self-confidence, being positive will help you to be firm and strong when you take decisions or when something negative happens and it seems to be no solution.
Just to illustrate, imagine that you were around people that only put you down, the problem is that often we think that we will end up alone and that we will not find better people, so we settle not because we are happy but simply because our fear made us feel comfortable. We live in a world of more than 7 Billion people, who told you that you will be alone? that no one will want to associate with you anymore? that you will not meet better people? Yes I know, it is your negative mind. Now, construct a more positive mindset and do exactly the opposite of what your negative mind has been telling you.
5. Create future projects
Try to work on something that will make you proud. It does not ave to be an engineering project or whatsoever, create a goal that you would like to achieve and make sure that everyday you do something to get you closer to your goal.
I recommend that this future goal is something that you do for yourself. It may be having more fun from now on, travelling and having some good time with yourself or the people you love somewhere, surrounding yourself with people that really care for you, improving your qualities and not letting bad experiences spoil the wonderful person that you are, build a family or move to a new town or job, the list goes but the emphasis is; such projects when accomplished give us an amazing feeling of being capable of achieving what you want.
8. Take care of yourself
9. Don’t let anyone bring you down
10. Improve your skills
I encourage you to start taking these steps today and don’t forget to share this post with friends.